Obsessed with Pens

I have a huge collection of pens of all sorts, sized, and colors.  Fine Point and Think Point.  I have to STOP buying them!

I have a huge obsession with BOOKS.  My obsession started years ago when I lost all my books in a house fire.  At first I was bummed out to lose over 1000 books!  I even got an reader a KINDLE FIRE.  Well, that did not fix me.  I am still obsessed with true stories, true crime, like NCIS, CSI, Numbe3rs, Criminal Minds, and even Supernatural.

I also had a collection of Titanic books, old and new.   I am obsessed with the real story.

Now I am on a kick, to read one author and all the books they write…for example right now I am reading Iris JoHansen series.

BUT, I am also in College.

1st I got my AA in Paralegal in IL

2nd got my BA in Technical management

3rd I am working and half way done with my Master’s in Human Resources Generalist

I have been in college for ten years.  I raised my daughter 1st as a single mom.  My hubby walked out on us when she was 1.5 years old.  Going back to college is my passion and finishing is my passion.

So with all that said, I do college most of my free time.   On my spare time I spend with my two cats and or reading.  Here and there I get to watch Netflix movies.

What do you like to do on your FREE TIME?

Jackie Paulson

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UBC DAY #5

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Greetings and welcome to Day Five of the Ultimate Blog Challenge!

Your visitors are coming to your website to learn from you. So, teach them something!

A great way to teach them is to write a blog post such as,:

“A step by step guide to _____” and then outline something that you do.

It could be steps to find a new recipe, or it could be a recipe. You might want to describe the steps you use to get your kids out of bed in the morning. It could be a list of steps to help you manage your daily tasks at work. Maybe you want to share the process you use to select your travel destination!

Whatever it is, teach it!

Don’t forget to share your Day 5 post first on your own website, and then head over to the Facebook group at http://www.facebook.com/groups/UltimateBlogChallenge and share the URL of your post with the group.

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Be Well.
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How to stop caring about what others think about you.

The reason I chose this topic is that I see society judging others for the way they look.  I have a chronic face condition that others see me “different” than normal people.  What is amazing is that It does not allow me to get certain jobs in America. What I did was learn about my visible dis order, and know that no one can change me or my intelligence.  So what I have been doing is living to others expectations of me.  I no longer do this.  In my younger years I use to care about what others thought of me.   In my older years I just figure that those lucky to know me are just that LUCKY.  I choose to live authentically, and make few friends that mean the world to me.  That is what I have to say today.

Stay cool with ice water in front of fan

I went to the website: https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/beating-the-heat-with-low-tech-122423

To stay cool in a room I placed a bowl of ice in front of my  window fan and it does cool the room despite the naysayers.

I was going to do the UBC but it seems that I am not getting emails.  I will try to blog anyway.

College break is this week, so writing is easy.  Next week with College, it will be harder.  I wanted to share my book notes from a book, with some personal information.  Basically I grew up in a Narcissistic home, a dysfunctional home.

Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist: Discovering Your True Self

When we separate ourselves from the narcissist, our consciousness expands and deepens.  The true self grows without impingement’s, creates without boundaries, expresses feelings openly and thinks with a spacious mind.  Those who put seeking the true self uppermost in their lives receive a great boon-The Hero’s Journey.

Freeing yourself from the narcissist who took so much of your life is a major step toward individualism.

Taking this journey you DIS-Identify from the narcissist and rediscover your life’s work: becoming your authentic self.

Wants or seeks love and approval.  Narcissist are incapable of being fully human, lack of empathy, constant assertion of superiority and chronic lying, deception and verbal abuse.

Jackie’s  father, or mother, family of origin is revealing.  Jackie’s parents classic narcissist, emotionally distant from me.  There was no hugging, no emotional closeness, no empathy.  Jackie’s father, a workaholic, was absent for most of my childhood and adolescence.

Father Roy, incapable of giving love.  Absent mother, Jackie survived her cold, critical father and absent mom.

In her marriage Jackie found what she thought was the perfect man or husband only to  find him to be an alcoholic like her parents. Her parents were hypercritical and dismissed her value as an individual.

To heal you must sever all ties.  Start to live your life on your own terms as a separate growing individual.

How to identify the Narcissistic Personality?  This disorder is characterized by extreme self-absorption, lack of empathy, ruthlessness, incapacity for emotional intimacy, volcanic rage, chronic lying, deceit and exploitation.  They have unethical and immoral and illegal behaviors.  They exploit their emotional vulnerability, block their creativity and put them in financial jeopardy, the narcissist hastily exits.

Checking Your Progress:

  1. Make a list of what you did for yourself this week.
  2. Envision your future. Spontaneously write down what you are seeing without editing.
  3. What are you noticing inside yourself indicates the narcissist is NO LONGER uppermost in your thoughts and feelings.
  4. How are you expressing creative capacities?
  5. What are you learning about yourself as a unique individual?

Jolanda Jacobi said, like a seed growing into a tree, life unfolds stage by stage, only if they tread the path bravely and fling themselves into life, fearing no struggle and no exertion will they maturetheir personality more fully.

Carl Gustav Jung said, knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness’s of other people.

The “good kids” focuses on pleasing parents, emulating their thinking processes and behavioral patterns rather than becoming their real self.  This child is too intimidated and controlled by the iron will of the parent to think and feel for themselves, and as a result, individuation, the process of becoming an authentic person is stalled.  Many parents view their children through rosy lenses and want to think they are raising a prefect “KID” because it reflects well on them.  As a result, some “perfect kids” develop a false self and become budding narcissists.  There are serious psychological issues that arise from not separating and individuating out of the parental mold.  Despite many external achievements, like good grades, good social skills, athletic talent and creative gifts, the young adult remains unconsciously tied to their parents ambitions for them rather than disidentifying from mother and father to become their unique self.

In each transition of your life the process of individuation is always waiting for us to say: Yes I will move forward, heal and  become whole.

Qualities of the Individuated Self:

Opportunities for accelerating individuation often occur at times of psychological duress: in life crises and through tragedies.  Our pain, desperation and past regressive, repetitive, failed choices can awaken and inspire us to enter the waters of the river of change.  This process, along with the hard, persevering work we do with ourselves, leads to physiological  freedom.

Those who do not develop an independent sense of self tend to marry someone who controls, manipulates, deceives and demeans them.  Often the partner is a narcissist.  Breaking this destructive repetition cycle is essential to developing one’s full psychological, creative, and emotional and mental capacities.

Children who grew up with one or more narcissistic parents were never allowed to express their own feelings and thoughts or share their dreams and ambitions without ridicule.  They were molded into living puppets ready to do the narcissistic parent’s bidding.  Growing up these children believed their thinking was distorted an misguided.  Thus, creating doubting their own perceptions and feelings.  Adults who grew up emotionally constricted remain numb and frozen.  Parents “BRAINWAHSED CHILD.”

No deprivation or cruelty perpetrated on a child simply disappears.  Trauma returns in the language of dreams, addictions, obsessions, anxieties, mood disorders, physical illness and dissociative disorders.  Unconscious repetitions of trauma are corrosive and debilitating, afflicting some victim’s for a lifetime.

A child who is neglected, unprotected, dismissed or forgotten never feels safe.  They cannot trust their own mind, minor express genuine emotion.  The inner world is one of deadened inertness.  Being a nonexistent.

The earlier in childhood the trauma occurs and the more chronic nature of the abuse, the greater the devastating emotional and psychological effects.  With trauma, the child experiences a loss of personal security, is emotionally overwhelmed, feels unprotected and has pervasive feelings of helplessness.  Trauma is psychologically tsunamic, a serious of inescapable terror waves growing in power and height that carry the threat of death to the self.

 

The child of the narcissist suffers from varying levels of trauma from early childhood as a result of chronic exposure to a narcissistic parent.  Being held at arm’s length without affection or concern for their welfare, being treated as a worthless and inferior member of the family, these psychological blows are internalized into the child’s psyche.  Children often blame themselves, they look inside and feel inferior, ashamed, deficient and unwanted.

Cracking the code of repetitive childhood and adult life narratives begins with the process of consciously identifying your psychological pain, expressing it and releasing it.  Working through your core issues begins the evolution of the original true self the spiral of  growth, healing, individuation and transformation.

 

Many children of narcissists learn to keep their feelings inside, leaving them trapped in a repetitive cycle of non-expression.

Recognizing and accepting blocked, psychologically injured parts of ourselves that have drifted from our unconscious minds is the next step in becoming an authentic individual.  As children, we denied our feelings to survive.

 As adults who pursue the truth, we reclaim and express our feelings, own them and free ourselves from traumatic parental conditioning.

Liberation is a process that is different for each individual.

With Liberation, the ego diminishes until it fades and disappears.

We are at peace with the mortal wounds of childhood;

we have mercy for ourselves and for others.

Nature becomes a transcendent living entity where we find nourishments, inspiration and tranquility.

CH 4

You should write, first of all, to please yourself.  You should not care a damn about anybody else at all, you have to live in such a way that your writing emerges from it.  By Doris Lessing

Every time we begin, we wonder how we did it before.  Each time is a new journey  with no maps by Natalie Goldberg

If you have lived with a narcissist, you have been constricted by that person’s constant demands, criticisms and humiliations for many years.  Writing is one of the best ways to free yourself from psychological oppression.

Growing up in a narcissistic family, we learn very early that we are not free to be our spontaneous selves.  The narcissistic parent dictates and controls the life of their children.

In one family the narcissistic parent takes on the role to ignore and neglect their children.  They cause deep psychological wounds, projecting their negative aggressive feelings, thoughts an impulses on their children.

Children targeted for abuse believe they deserve this abominable treatment.

Many of them move through adulthood believing they are worthless, inadequate, weak, incompetent and bad human beings.

2eb7e49afaa797c8e63ded88f2955c7a.jpgThis limits freedom of expression and require a healing process.

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Welcome to the Ultimate Blog Challenge, Jackie!!

Welcome to the Ultimate Blog Challenge, Jackie!!

We are honored that you decided to join us for the July 2018 Ultimate Blog Challenge where we will all be blogging 31 times during the 31 days of July. We are still getting ready and here are are few things for you to consider (You can access all these links at https://ultimateblogchallenge.com/confirmed/ )

1. Great ready for some work and for some fun! I am sure it will be more of the later!

2. Download and print your Blog Calendar to stay on track!

3. Start brainstorming & blogging! If it’s not the 1st of the month yet, you can start brainstorming your ideas, or even write posts now and save them as drafts or schedule them to post during the challenge, and get a jump start.

Keep an eye out for the emails from us with a subject line of “[UBC] Day 1 Blogging Idea & Tips” Each Day during the challenge, you’ll get a new brainstorm idea to help you blog, so you’ve always got something to blog about.

4. Speaking of Connecting, Connect with other members our Facebook group.

5. Share the Ultimate Blog Challenge! To help you out with this, you can pick a banner, or send a tweet here: http://ultimateblogchallenge.com/share-the-challenge/

6. If you have any questions, head over to the Official FAQ Page to see if you have a question there. If not, ask it in the Facebook group!

7. Finally, remember to Have Fun!

8. Starting at Midnight (Pacific TIme) (once the Challenge begins) you will be getting your Daily emails. Prior emails that were sent are not available.

Thanks!
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WordPress says Good-Bye?

WordPress Photo Challenge is gone!  I cannot believe this.  I have been blogging for atleast ten years.  I loved this challenge.  I hope WordPress has other challenges or does something!

What to write about?

Well, as a Christian women I wish to say that I believe in God.  I am a college student and I will probably write more about my college classes.  I am taking Marketing Management and this  author is Phillip Kotler.  I will write more as I am in class, which starts the first week of July.

I look forward to sharing with all of you my College knowledge as I continue to study.

What is the first sentence of the book you’re reading right now?

What is the first sentence of the book you’re reading right now?

In the Bible: The book of Revelation

“The revelation of Jesus Christ, which God gave him to show his servants what must soon take place.”

I love this sentence as it tells the beginning of the end of the books in the Bible.  I think that those who try to scare us all into the end of the world, are false prophets.  Why?  Even Jesus says, “I will come like a thief in the night.”  No one will know the end of the world until Jesus  comes.

Leave it as a comment below and let’s chat about it.

 

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Happy Father’s Day 2018

I live in USA, IL, and it has to be the hottest day I can remember on this Father’s Day.  I am not feeling well, but wanted to share my thoughts.  I have a major paper due for College tonight, in reality I cannot wait to hand it in.  I am in my Master’s Degree for HRM.   Than I have a huge final due.  I am exhausted, stressed.  I will conqueror this.  I am a women and tend to worry more than I should.  I will give it to God and bless my life by relaxing for once.  I pray that all who stop here are blessed.

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Paying it Forward

Today I write because yesterday 6/15/18, a Friday, I was too exhausted to write.  But today I wish to share a story.

A friend, whom cut herself, had to get to the hospital.  After she called many people, no one stepped up due to the ego.  Thus, as a Christian I decided to do what Jesus would do and help a friend in need without any judgments.  I live for God and life is all about Him, thus doing what Jesus would do, I brought her to a hospital, stayed and helped through a depressing thing.  It is not for me or you or anyone to Judge any person.  Jesus loves unconditionally.  No Conditions!  Open arms.

Being an empath, I had to go to my place and clear my toxic energy as it was not well.  If you know someone in need, would you help them and throw away the ego?  As the two angels helped me the other day, it was my way of helping someone else and paying it forward.  I let go of my ego and just did what was right in the eyes of Jesus.

May you all be blessed for reading this.  Tarot by ceclia_2018

Good People In America

Let me start out by saying that over the past ten years I have blogged and been hacked more than  once.  Those who choose to follow me know who I am.  At any rate, this is how my day started today.  Up at am with hardly any sleep.  Then Off to a place to feed my cats because where I am at I am not allowed to have them.  On the way back to my location where it originated, our truck just literally DIED.  He was driving it, and there was nothing we could do, and with no job, no home to call of my own, we just started walking.  We grabbed anything of value thinking that someone would steal the truck or take everything we had in it out.  My faith was strong, but not as strong as I should have let it be.  As a christian couple, we put our faith in HIM.  After walking awhile, a nice van with two men asked if we needed a ride.  Gratefully we took it, and off we went to a location that is not my own.  Now it reminds me so much of the way America is going to be great again, somehow.  I have to believe this.  Since 2015, and almost having my Master’s degree ten years after raising my daughter as a single mom, I have been homeless, helpless, lost, depressed and just lost my faith until TODAY.  There is someone out there over this internet far worse off than I am.  I am waiting patiently until God tells me what to do next, or for someone or some company to offer me a great job.  I have worked many jobs but for odd reasons not been able to stay long.  Its as if the unknown is more attracted to me than the “known.”  I will be praying for everyone across America, each day I get up because those two men were our Angels today and with tears in my eyes, if I could pay them back, it’s all I can to do pay it forward when I am able to.  May you all be blessed for reading my story.  Jackie Paulson @ 2018 6/14/2018, do not use my words or this blog for your selfish reasons.  I have a right to protect my words.